Coaching for couples, individuals & careers
Make room for
the third voice.
In every relationship, there's you, there's the other person, and there's the dynamic you create together. That dynamic has patterns, strengths, and a voice of its own.
All sessions are virtual
Recognize any of these?
Different words, same argument.
The listening loop
You never actually listen to me.
Because you never say what you mean.
Here we go again.
Work vs. home
I'll be home by seven.
You said that yesterday.
Always on
Can you put the phone down?
One more Slack message, I promise.
That was an hour ago.
The mental load
Why am I the only one who notices what needs doing?
Just tell me and I'll do it.
Drifting
We're fine.
We're roommates.
Money
Can we talk about money?
(sigh) Not tonight.
These are examples of the patterns we can explore together.
69%
Most couples don't have hundreds of fights. They have the same handful, over and over, for years.
Research by Drs. John and Julie Gottman found that about 69% of relationship conflict is "perpetual": recurring issues rooted in differences that never fully go away. The goal isn't to make them disappear. It's to see the pattern clearly, get unstuck, and handle it in a way that keeps you close.
Source: The Gottman Institute
The approach
I don't take sides. I coach what's between you.
Most couples arrive as two voices arguing. Underneath is a third: the relationship itself, with its own fears, hopes and habits.
In relationship systems coaching, we pay attention to that shared space. Instead of deciding who's right, we get curious about what keeps happening between you, and what could change. You stop fighting each other and start working on it, together.
It's thoughtful work, but practical too. You leave every session with something to notice, discuss, or try at home. Change shows up in your week, not just on the call.
Not two sides to fix.
A relationship to understand.
Three ways to work together
Whether you're working through a relationship challenge or figuring out your next step at work, we'll clarify what matters and find a practical way forward.
Couples
For partners stuck in the same argument, drifting apart, or facing a big decision. Both of you, one relationship.
$220 / session$200 / session on a monthly plan
Save with a monthly plan
Individuals
For a breakup, a transition, or working on your side of a relationship when your partner isn't ready.
$170 / session$150 / session on a monthly plan
Save with a monthly plan
Work & career
For career transitions, leadership challenges, difficult conversations at work, or figuring out what you want from your next role. Grounded in years of experience in technology and high-pressure organizations.
$170 / session$150 / session on a monthly plan
Save with a monthly plan
All sessions are virtual. Many employers offer coaching through workplace benefits, wellness or professional-development budgets, so it's worth checking whether yours does.
What coaching is, and isn't
Coaching is
- Forward-looking: where you want to go and how to get there
- A partnership. You set the goals; I help you see clearly and move
- Practical, with things to try between sessions
- For people who are functioning but stuck, or want to grow
- Confidential
Coaching isn't
- Therapy, diagnosis, or treatment of mental health conditions
- Crisis support. If anyone feels unsafe at home, please contact a licensed professional or local support line first
- A referee deciding who's right
About
Hi, I'm Sep.
I've been coaching for more than a decade: speakers on the TEDx stage, technology teams, executives and whole organizations. In 2021 I brought that same systems lens to couples and individuals.
I'm ORSC-certified and an Accredited Enterprise Coach, and my years in AI, technology, and risk at major banks help me understand the pressures that demanding careers can bring into our relationships. My coaching is warm, candid, and grounded in what you can put into practice.
My coaching journey Coaching since 2014 · 5 practices · 4 certifications See the timelineHide the timeline
Each practice built on the one before it.
- 2014 – 2020TEDx speaker coach
- 2015 – 2021Technology team coaching
Certified SAFe Agile Coach
Scaled Agile Inc. · Sep 2018 - 2018 – 2023Speaker coaching practice
- 2021 – presentEnterprise and executive coaching
Expert in Enterprise Coaching
ICAgile · Dec 2022 Accredited Enterprise Coach
Agile Coaches Alliance · Nov 2024 - 2021 – presentRelationship and individual coaching
Organizational and Relationship Systems Coaching (ORSC)
Sep 2024
Certification earned while in that practice
Questions people ask
Where are sessions held?
All sessions are virtual, by secure video, so you can join from wherever you are.
Do we both need to come?
For couples coaching, yes. If only one of you is ready, individual coaching can still focus on how you show up in the relationship.
How many sessions will we need?
It depends on your goals and what emerges in our work. We can discuss a useful starting point on the intro call and revisit the plan together.
Is it confidential?
I treat our conversations with care and discretion. We'll review confidentiality, its limits, and how shared information is handled before starting, especially when coaching two people together.
Start with a free 15‑minute intro call.
No pressure. Tell me what's going on, and we'll see whether coaching is the right fit for you.
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